It’s not uncommon to come across people who take advantage of others. Unfortunately, these people tend to prey on those who are kind, compassionate, and willing to help others. If you’re someone who falls into this category, it’s important to be aware of the signs that people may be taking advantage of you. In this article, we’ll discuss 10 signs that people may be taking advantage of you.
1) They always want something from you
If someone always wants something from you and never seems to be satisfied, it could be a sign that they’re taking advantage of you. They may be using your kindness and generosity to get what they want without giving anything in return. These sort of people ehn, hmmm, hmmmer, hmmmest! AY, your stove gets kerosene, you get garri, help me run 2k pls, your ‘milik’ remain there, abeg you still get butter? Na dem, run o️️
2) They make you feel guilty
People who take advantage of others often use guilt as a tool to get what they want. They may make you feel bad for not helping them or for saying no to their requests. These sorts will gaslight you into thinking you’re responsible for all the ‘gbese’ (debt), ‘igbekun’ (captivity), and ‘sababi’ (coincidence) in their lives; my dear don’t fall for it! ‘Flee away’!
3) They don’t respect your boundaries
If someone doesn’t respect your boundaries and constantly pushes you to do things you’re not comfortable with, it’s a sign that they may be taking advantage of you. They may try to convince you that it’s for your own good or that you owe them buh ‘tah!’ They’ll keep doing that if you don’t cut them off as soon as they start…nonsense!
4) They have victim-syndrome
People who take advantage of others often play the victim to get sympathy and support. They may exaggerate their problems or make it seem like they’re always the ones who are being wronged. ‘Gbogbo aye is against them’ (the whole world is against them) all the time… rada rada! My brothers and sisters pls chase them away ‘tefe-tefe’ (far away)!
5) They never take responsibility
If someone never takes responsibility for their actions and always blames others, it could be a sign that they’re taking advantage of you. They may try to make you feel responsible for their problems or mistakes. Pls, return their basket of responsibility to them fam!
6) They’re always asking for money
One of the most common ways people take advantage of others is by asking for money. They may promise to pay you back or say that it’s an emergency, but in reality, they may have no intention of repaying you. These sorts are really scary cos they’ll never stop asking unless you change it for them; if they don’t return your money, no matter how small, ask them! They must pay so they won’t begin to borrow and not return forever.
7) They’re always canceling plans
If someone is always canceling plans at the last minute or making excuses for why they can’t meet you, it could be a sign that they’re taking advantage of you. They may be using you as a backup plan or only reaching out when they need something. So you too should get them! Let’s see who’ll first get tired of the game…’shoye e’ (understood)?!
8) They don’t show appreciation
I personally loathe this! People who take advantage of others often don’t show appreciation for what you do for them. They may take your help for granted or act like they’re entitled to it. Pls stop doing that; they’re freely allowed to ‘japa’ (go away) if they like!
9) They’re always talking about themselves
If someone is always talking about themselves and never seems interested in what you have to say, it’s a sign that they may be taking advantage of you. They may be using you as a sounding board or trying to make themselves feel better by talking about their problems. Don’t give your listening ears again ‘oremi’ (my friend); let them be talking to their mirrors! Rada rada!!
10) They’re never there for you
Finally, if someone is never there for you when you need them, it’s a sign that they may be taking advantage of you. They may only be interested in you when they need something and disappear when you need help or support. This can be really painful though because it’s often sad when it dawned on you that those you thought you had were only there cos they needed something from
In conclusion, it’s important to be aware of the above signs that people may be taking advantage of you. By recognizing these signs, you can protect yourself and avoid getting into situations that could be harmful or damaging. Remember, it’s okay to say no and set boundaries, and you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness dear ‘IDAN’!
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