You’re not lost because you are on an unpaved path. You become lost when you… Hold that thought for a minute! Who are you? Who do you want to grow to be? Who are you expected to be? You have three different answers to those three weirdly similar questions, right? That’s not a problem. Let’s move on.
An identity crisis is a psychological situation where individuals have issues/problems deciding who they are, what they stand for, and their place in society. It is a significant, overlooked situation leading to bipolar syndrome and depression.
Have you ever wondered how your life would be if you were Adam? Especially the time before he was given company. I know it’s tough to imagine. Especially now that our happiness and essence seem to depend on other people – even people we do not know and may never meet. It sure would be tough to imagine being alone in a garden, naked. That’s not the point. The point is to know who you are without the compulsive influence of society. To know exactly who we are and what we stand for.
What were those things you took a genuine interest in without being told to? What fun things do you like to do? What do you like to do? What comforts you? What makes you happy? What are your principles? After answering those questions, how many of them do you practice or still apply to your life? It’s OK if you think most of your answers are influenced by society. They are rightly so, and that is not a problem.
At one point, people were pressured to become like someone else – sometimes better. Now, it seems there’s more pressure on people to be themselves. Is it a problem? It can be especially when there’s no room for change or growth. There’s this odd pressure to keep up your appearance even if who people have grown to believe you to be is simply not you. You consistently tell yourself that is who you are, and sometimes, you believe your own fronting. Remember that you are who you are because of who you were, the lessons you learned, and how you chose to continue living.
Being yourself is not about giving in to your fundamental/primitive instincts. It is essential to know that being yourself does not absolve your responsibilities. It makes you accountable to yourself and the people around you.
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No one tree can make a forest. It takes a lot of fish to be called a school. Society cannot adequately function without you, and you cannot adequately function without society. Therefore, you are also accountable to the society you find yourself in.
A good tire cannot be made from steel, but a good rim must. You are not meant to fit in; you are meant to find a place for yourself. Build a home for yourself and own your ground. You are meant to be comfortable and command respect in your skin.
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If you’re too different, you might be judged too average, and you might not be noticed, way below the bar, and you might be considered insignificant. But what is the point of living if you’re more bothered about how people feel about you than how you feel about yourself? Your feelings are valid to you before they can be to someone else.
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How To Avoid or Deal With Identity Crisis
- Know Who You Are: Identify your likes, dislikes, and everything. Put yourself first, and don’t blur people that care about you out of the picture.
- Set Clear Goals For Yourself: Know what things you want to achieve and why you want to achieve them. Put together a feasible plan and work on it. Believe in yourself.
- Take Charge Of Your Mind: Don’t be overwhelmed by negative external pressures and opinions. Encourage yourself, work on yourself, and develop yourself for yourself.
- Share Your Happiness: Put your heart into making YOU and yours happy because happiness is best enjoyed in the company of people that love you.
- Be Responsible: Hold yourself in high regard but don’t TRY to oppress others. “Do unto others what you want them to do to you.” Always try to be a better version of yourself (no pressure).
- Avoid Unhealthy Competition: Take motivation from the achievement of others. Don’t compare yourself to others -whether more or less. Always stick to pitching you’re now against your then.
- Avoid Sticky Situations: Try your best to avoid situations that require you to lie or put up a facade because they can come back to haunt you and box you in. You become lost when stuck in a charade without any place to go.
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